Family Counseling Waianae HI

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Mr. Terry Martin
Terry J Martin LCSW, DCSW
(808) 271-5112
98-211 Pali Momi St. Suite 707
Aiea, HI
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW, DCSW
Licensed in Hawaii
20 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Substance, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Behavioral Problems, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Attachment Disorders
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Military/Veterans
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adults (26-59)

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Ann Dorado
(808) 455-0652
Pearl City, HI
Practice Areas
Career Development, Counselor Education, Couples & Family, School, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
tagalog

Ms. Trenda Lee Berkey, LCSW
(808) 382-3388
98-211 Pali Momi St. Ste 707
Aiea, HI
Specialties
Addictions or Substance Abuse,ADHD,Anger Management,Anxiety or Fears,Child or Adolescent Issues,Depression,Divorce,Domestic Abuse or Violence,Eating Disorders,Parenting
Gender
Female
Education
University of Hawaii at LCCUniversity of Hawaii at West OahuUniversity of Hawaii at Manoa
Insurance
Yes
Membership Organizations
Psychotherapy Works Inc.

Wai'anae Coast Community Mental Health Center Inc
(808) 696-4211
85-670 Farrington Hwy
Waianae, HI
 
Alaka'i Na Keiki Inc
(808) 695-9094
84-1170 Farrington Hwy Ste 7
Waianae, HI
 
Mr. Dan Baram
Malama Project Inc
(808) 228-8957
98-084 Kamehameha Hwy Suite 301B
Aiea, HI
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Hawaii
18 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Child Abuse and Neglect, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Dissociative Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Multicultur
Populations Served
AIDS/HIV+, Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Military/Veterans, Step Families, Chronic Illness, Interracial Families/Couples
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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DarLene Jones
(808) 847-9857
Pearl City, HI
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Career Development, Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family
Certifications
National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
Spanish,

Eleanor Sharsh
(808) 485-0206
Aiea, HI
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, School, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Women In Need
(808) 696-1996
85-979 Farrington Hwy Ste D
Waianae, HI
 
Catholic Charities HawaiI
(808) 696-4885
87-190 Maliona St
Waianae, HI
 
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Is the Role You Play in Your Family Hurting Your Life?

Every living system seeks balance. In nature, this process is called homeostasis. Within a family system, homeostasis explains why members adopt certain roles. In healthy families, members take on different roles at various times to meet the family’s needs. But in dysfunctional families, the roles are more rigid. For example, if one parent is addicted to alcohol, the other may be busy providing for the family and seldom home. One child may take on the role of Caretaker, preparing meals for younger siblings while another becomes the Hero—the one who strives to do everything perfectly.

But the family dynamics that shape family roles aren’t limited to severe dysfunctions like substance abuse. One of my coaching clients grew up in a loving, close-knit family in which he was the Hero. Because his parents wanted him to have opportunities they never had, he was expected to get straight A’s, a good education, and a successful career. And while this role enabled him to become an accomplished and wealthy lawyer, his life was falling apart. High blood pressure was causing health problems, workaholism threatened his marriage, and the responsibilities of providing for his elderly parents, an expensive home, and three children in private schools overwhelmed him.

Another example is Casey, who dreamed of becoming a professional photographer. Casey was in a financial-services job she hated, but in which she felt trapped. Growing up, both of her parents struggled to hold down jobs. Casey started babysitting at the age of 12, and had been helping her parents financially ever since. She lived with her boyfriend, who was supporting his ex-wife and son. He was unsupportive of her making a career change, because they needed her income to pay the bills. By continuing to make others’ needs more important than her own, she had unconsciously recreated her family role of Caretaker in her adult relationship.

While our family role may have made sense growing up, it often wreaks havoc in our adult lives. As our primary role takes hold, parts of us become suppressed—parts we need to live a healthy and fulfilling adult life. These can include the part that feels like a worthwhile, deserving person; the part that feels intelligent and competent; the spontaneous, playful part, or the part that can feel and express joy.

If the role you play is sabotaging your life, change the behaviors that reinforce it. If you play the People-pleaser who always says what others expect for app...

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