Family Counseling Kapaa HI

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Dawson Joan
(808) 822-5881
4566 Ohia St Ste 1
Kapaa, HI
 
Waipouli Massage
(808) 821-0878
4-901 Kuhio Hwy Ste A
Kapaa, HI
 
Child & Family Service Kuanalu Program
(808) 821-2520
4-1112 Kuhio Hwy
Kapaa, HI
 
Blaich Gary L
(808) 821-0088
4-1435 Kuhio Hwy Ste 201
Kapaa, HI
 
Keiki Ohana Therapeutic Family & Individual Services
(808) 823-0276
3582 Moloaa Rd
Kapaa, HI
 
Manka Carolynne
(808) 821-9454
4-1579 Kuhio Hwy Ste 203
Kapaa, HI
 
Mahelona Medical Center
(808) 822-4961
4800 Kawaihau Rd
Kapaa, HI
 
Levy Joan
(808) 822-5488
PO Box 160
Kapaa, HI
 
Arakaki Louise Packer
(808) 821-0878
4-901 Kuhio Hwy Ste A
Kapaa, HI
 
Bodymind & Breath Center
(808) 822-5488
PO Box 160
Kapaa, HI
 

Is the Role You Play in Your Family Hurting Your Life?

Every living system seeks balance. In nature, this process is called homeostasis. Within a family system, homeostasis explains why members adopt certain roles. In healthy families, members take on different roles at various times to meet the family’s needs. But in dysfunctional families, the roles are more rigid. For example, if one parent is addicted to alcohol, the other may be busy providing for the family and seldom home. One child may take on the role of Caretaker, preparing meals for younger siblings while another becomes the Hero—the one who strives to do everything perfectly.

But the family dynamics that shape family roles aren’t limited to severe dysfunctions like substance abuse. One of my coaching clients grew up in a loving, close-knit family in which he was the Hero. Because his parents wanted him to have opportunities they never had, he was expected to get straight A’s, a good education, and a successful career. And while this role enabled him to become an accomplished and wealthy lawyer, his life was falling apart. High blood pressure was causing health problems, workaholism threatened his marriage, and the responsibilities of providing for his elderly parents, an expensive home, and three children in private schools overwhelmed him.

Another example is Casey, who dreamed of becoming a professional photographer. Casey was in a financial-services job she hated, but in which she felt trapped. Growing up, both of her parents struggled to hold down jobs. Casey started babysitting at the age of 12, and had been helping her parents financially ever since. She lived with her boyfriend, who was supporting his ex-wife and son. He was unsupportive of her making a career change, because they needed her income to pay the bills. By continuing to make others’ needs more important than her own, she had unconsciously recreated her family role of Caretaker in her adult relationship.

While our family role may have made sense growing up, it often wreaks havoc in our adult lives. As our primary role takes hold, parts of us become suppressed—parts we need to live a healthy and fulfilling adult life. These can include the part that feels like a worthwhile, deserving person; the part that feels intelligent and competent; the spontaneous, playful part, or the part that can feel and express joy.

If the role you play is sabotaging your life, change the behaviors that reinforce it. If you play the People-pleaser who always says what others expect for app...

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